As I look back on my twenties, I'm reminded of a specific moment. I was with friends, scrolling through Instagram when a picture I posted caught the attention of someone they knew. The shared connection sparked a conversation, a reminder that sometimes, the world feels smaller than we think.
This experience highlighted a valuable lesson: while accumulating acquaintances can be easy, true fulfilment comes from investing in quality relationships. It's about surrounding myself with individuals who uplift and support me, and who bring laughter and a sense of belonging.
Throughout this journey, I've learned the power of genuine conversation, going beyond small talk to truly connect with others. Actively listening, sharing my thoughts and feelings, and showing genuine interest in their lives have enriched my interactions. It's about celebrating their successes, being genuinely happy for them, and cherishing these friendships as treasures, chosen families we build along the way.
Being reliable, trustworthy, and offering a shoulder to lean on has become a cornerstone of my friendships. I strive to be a good friend, offering advice, support, and encouragement as they chase their dreams.
However, navigating this world hasn't been without its challenges. There are red flags I can't ignore disrespect, abuse, negativity, and refusing to listen to my perspective. While friendships require understanding and compromise, I've learned that a constantly negative influence is not healthy. Learning to walk away from such connections, though difficult, signifies strength and allows me to prioritize my well-being.
Through it all, I've learned to trust my gut. If something feels off, I listen to my intuition and take steps to protect myself. This might involve setting boundaries, distancing myself, or sometimes, walking away entirely.
Remember, this journey is about creating space for healthy connections and surrounding myself with people who uplift and support me. Building and maintaining these relationships takes effort, but the rewards of love, support, and a sense of belonging are truly priceless.
Shout out to Headlinerz, purpose drivers, holico 10, Aboki, and friends, Nfcs Oau-( You all rock)- my pinned chats for years.
With love and reflection,
Olajide